A ghost is something dead that appears to be alive. Many people praise the idea that selfishness is wrong. Yeah, I get it – not sharing your crayons that you’re clearly not using can be a bit unfair. However, when you ignore others because you are working on yourself, some shamelessly call it selfish.
The decision to help millions of people instead of solely one person is clear. Unless that one person is undertaking a task that can prevent the apocalypse, I’m going to go with helping millions. I’m going to continue recording visionary ways of playing the game I love so many people around the world can see it. I see no long-term value in helping out this girl (and I go over that further down in this post):
Like Victor Pride said, women want to make men happy. She learned that asking for my help, distracting me from something important does NOT make me happy. Go up to someone in the gym in the middle of a set and ask them to be your translator for a phone call. Unless you’re buying them a month of gym, it’s ludicrous.
Recently a poster named LightHeart79 commented:
Our character counts. Selfishness is a vice. Selfishness is the opposite of strength- and its contrary to “gut instinct” in most men. If you have to resist the urge to help someone out- that rotten feeling is the vampire draining you of your shining life essence. Our gut instinct is truth, when we castrate our consciousness, we dim our internal flame of truth and righteousness. Being a Bad Mother Fucker is very different from being a rotten apple. I have, in the past, subscribed to idealism of selfishness… If you subscribe to this idea, it is my hope, that you will not suffer a fall as deep as I have personally. There are deep consequences for our actions, now and later. One untruth is the beginning ignorance. It is foolish to place a premium on being selfish. We are independent and interdependent at the same time. There are no self made men, we need the people around us to be a success. Do not be deceived. A question in which I later read changed my own perspective immensely:
“What if everyone on this planet was exactly like me?”
Love your book and dig your blog, but I gotta throw the bullshit flag on this one.
Oh boy. Here we go. Let’s break down the entire thing (but feel free to skip to the parts that YOU find relevant)
Our character counts. Selfishness is a vice.
Selfishness is defined as “lacking consideration for others”. A vice is “immoral or wicked behavior”.
You want to know what’s wicked? Doing a favor for someone when it takes ten minutes of my time. Doesn’t seem like much but it QUICKLY adds up.
Read the biography on Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson. Jobs and Bill Gates both bring up an important point when Wozniak, an engineer and friend of Jobs, says that computers should be constructed and handed out in order to educate people about them. Jobs and Gates then refute that professional work can’t be made for free – after all, how would they eat?
Selfishness is the opposite of strength- and its contrary to “gut instinct” in most men. If you have to resist the urge to help someone out- that rotten feeling is the vampire draining you of your shining life essence.
I was faced with the choice of leaving soccer behind for some menial, uncompensated task. My gut instinct came into play and it gravitated towards the ball. Had I taken the other route, I would have not improved and that girl would always need a translator when I’m not around. Absolutely no value would have been exchanged.
When we’re going for our max, we need to focus entirely on ourselves and mentally prepare. To sever that attention would actually mean a lack of strength, i.e. selflessness. Strength is simply the gathering of energy; you can’t gather energy if you’re scatterbrained.
Our gut instinct is truth, when we castrate our consciousness, we dim our internal flame of truth and righteousness.
We don’t control our gut instinct. Therefore we can’t be conscious of it.
We don’t have control over when our animalistic desires arise, but consciousness involves actions that we do have control over. “Castrating” our consciousness is therefore a romanticized misnomer.
It is foolish to place a premium on being selfish.
If we’re concerned on everyone else’s profit and pleasure, we’ll be dead by the time it’s our turn.
We are independent and interdependent at the same time. Do not be deceived. A question in which I later read changed my own perspective immensely: “What if everyone on this planet was exactly like me?”
We’d all be winners. I have met such an individual in the past month. He was an exhiliarating, thrilling, and adventurous man training Muay Thai to “go in the jungle” during the summer. After talking to him for a few minutes, he told me “Sorry man but I gotta go to the gym, nice meeting you though”.
According to your perspective, here’s how someone with Lightheart79 (strong name to mindset ratio) would reply:
That’s selfish! Ugh, how could he? Like, I was interested in his journey and now he wants to leave, gross that’s an awful personality trait. He should relentlessly be around to attend to my personal needs, i.e. certainty.
News flash! Work has to get done so an audience can benefit from it.
On the other hand, you can be selfless and help someone else for their profit. That’s not commensalism, that’s parasitism.
There are deep consequences for our actions, now and later.
You are correct. That day I proceeded to enjoy one of the most successful, beneficial, and profitable practices I have ever embarked on. I learned a priceless ball control skill ten minutes after she left, when dogs began chasing my ball and I had to protect it and fight for it. To this day I still use the visions I created that day.
There are no self made men, we need the people around us to be a success. Do not be deceived.
Yep, that’s true. This girl made me realize how important focusing on that ball is. Unnecessary distractions WILL be eliminated, and this girl just happened to be one of them.
Even butlers are compensated. They don’t work for free.