It turns out that no matter what experience you have, if you ask the question “can I still make it?” People will ALWAYS find a way to tell you “No son, you can’t make it” or “too late, you missed the deadline” or some other way of keeping you grounded with where THEY are at. You cannot, under any circumstance, listen to the “No”-sayers.
There are so many reasons as to why someone might do this, some of them evil like they’re purposefully trying to keep us down. But we wouldn’t listen to evil people, we would just ignore them.
Friends, family, and close ones tell us this because they haven’t been able to create your successful vision.
Only you can see from your perspective. No one can get in your head. So if you ask someone else – especially someone that hasn’t even had success in that area – if you can still make it, they’re going to tell you you can’t.
They haven’t been successful, so why should you?
Now it’s another thing if you ask a successful person in your expertise that you have to go through some steps before you get to where they’re at. That’s what progress is: consistent, measured steps. Most never do take the first step: build a website, join a competitive amateur team, or get her number.
We’re not scared of failure. We don’t tell ourselves “I don’t think I’m enough of a failure” not because we don’t want to be known as failures, but because it’s EASY to be one. Anyone can be a failure: Just try, and then quit a second later.
But you always hear, “I don’t think I’m good enough to succeed.” Maybe you tell yourself this. I used to. But all it takes is a leap of faith: A large, strong, and confident step.
Buy that domain name. Connect with other athletes in your area. Ask her how her day went.
That first step is the scariest, because now you’re committing to a path. But you HAVE to do it if you are to make it to the other side, through the twilight trail, the haunted woods where the weak turn back in fear.
Don’t even ask yourself if you can “still make it”, because you MUST believe in your cause.
I actually started playing football (soccer) at 19. That’s nearly a decade after everyone that is supposed to be at least halfway-decent first starts. Yeah, I got told that I suck (a lot). But after a couple of years, good players finally started verbalizing that I’m actually improving.
At 22, I finally made the leap to professional football.
There is still a lot more to get done, and that’s the attitude you should have if you want to keep seeing results.
Only Useless Answers Come from Stupid Questions
The Buddha replied “It does not further” to questions that don’t help someone approach their success: irrelevant or purposeless questions.
Imagine asking yourself today, right now: “Will I still be alive tomorrow?”
It sure is uncertain that you may be able to breathe another 24 hours. But in the end, it’s still a yes or no question.
Why in the world would you tell yourself, “No, I’m going to die tomorrow…all hope is lost.” You wouldn’t, unless you were purposefully trying to die.
That is NOT how comebacks are made. But hey, let’s look at the other choice.
The other choice is to believe, “Yes, I’m going to be alive tomorrow. I’m going to kick butt for another 24 hours, and nothing or no one is going to stop me (except for the hunger of a 30-minute lunch break).” And that is way more empowering.